Q: How do you know when it’s time to move on to the next chapter of your life?
Okay, it’s that time again. It’s another adulting segment for y’all. Even though living in Korea has been a great experience for me so far, I would be lying to myself and you all if I pretend as if I don’t have any real-life worries. The fact is I’m not getting any younger. I’ve always been one to think ahead and plan for my future, so with that being said, let’s me introduce the topic that has been heavily on my mind as of late – settling down.
Time is flying by. I can hardly believe that I have been living in South Korea for nearly two years! Many amazing things have happened for me, and as the days turn into months, people, including myself, are wondering if this will be the place I stay or if I’ll go back home.
Many people have asked me to seriously consider living abroad’s practicality and how I plan to start my life back home if I stay away for too long. I don’t like this question for two reasons:
- It implies that my life here isn’t real.
- It gives off the impression that settling down in the country where I was raised is the only way to truly succeed.
However, even though I internally cringe when I’m asked this question, I must admit it does hold some weight -what exactly is my future plan? What happens next for me in South Korea? Will I continue to be a teacher?
Losing the chance to start life back home.
I wouldn’t consider myself a methodical planner. Still, I like to know how to proceed and which step to take before doing anything rash or regretful. As I plan for my future (finding a career, buying a house, settling down, etc.), the question of where these things will happen floats around in the back of my mind, never getting answered. I know I can’t stay in this indecisive phase for much longer, but part of me feels this chapter isn’t done yet.
Life in Korea has had its ups and downs, but for the most part, I’ve seen tremendous growth in myself as an individual, and it has been amazing living here. Originally, the plan was to give me 4 years in Korea to see if I would like it and then decide what I wanted to do afterward. The issue? While I am spending those four years here, I’m letting go of some valuable years back home.
So, as I contemplate whether or not a long-term future is possible for me as a foreigner in South Korea, I constantly think about losing my touch with the job market back home. I never gave myself a chance to find something back home. I can’t say I’m not curious about what kind of life I would lead if I continued living there; however, as I mentioned before, I’m not ready to give up on life here. But what if down the road I decide I’m ready to go back? What then? Quite the predicament, isn’t it?😅😭
Finding growth in a career and a place to call my own.
You may already know this, but Korea is a country that doesn’t have many natural resources; therefore, the amount of jobs the country can create is limited. This results in a highly competitive environment for the natives here, but what does that mean for little ol’ me?
Most foreigners may find themselves in a teaching position if they are living here. Some break out to be influencers and other things as well. Still, for the most part, the selection of job variety can look quite slim, which never settles well for someone who may be looking to grow in their career or switch careers. Even though it’s difficult, I have my fingers crossed, hoping that it is still possible, yet it’s a real concern.
From finding a decent job to finding a place to live, things can get quite stressful. It’s getting more and more expensive to survive nowadays. As the housing prices in Korea (especially in Seoul) soar, future plans and concerns about what to do about one’s economic status and the possibilities of surviving to weigh heavily on my mind. I want to get a place for myself soon, and the constantly rising cost of living seems to make the reality of achieving these dreams far from happening.
Taking a chance and having no regrets
I know my concerns and the ones that people have mentioned to me are valid, but a small part of me wants to see where I end up and what I’m capable of doing. I don’t know if I’m the only one who sometimes feels lost with life’s timing. When do you know when it’s time to jump to the next phase of your life? How do you know when the chapter you are currently writing is completed?
I now know what the next step is- if I’m going to make this my new home or not, but I want to keep my options open. We all face a lot of insecurity regarding the future and how it will turn out; however, we will never know if what we will regret if we don’t try.
Settling down somewhere is a big decision for everyone, and it is not an easy question to answer. I hope that I will continue to grow and be happy wherever I decided to land.
Well, there you have it, a little spill from the inner workings of my brain. Sometimes I just need some space to write and think about life, and that’s what this particular category is for. 🙂
Well, that’s all for today,
Until next time,
See ya around, friend~~